Hi everyone, Rob here.
Life is all about choices isn’t it? One choice leads to another which leads to the path you’re walking down. The problem is when choices lead to unintended consequences. Ask any addict if their addiction was what they intended when they took that first puff or drink or sniff. Ask any domestic violence victim if a life of being abused was what they intended when they committed themselves to their partner. Ask any persecuted Christian if being tortured was what they hoped for when they said yes to Jesus. We simply can’t foresee all that will happen when we make the choices that we do.
A difficulty lies when people then beat themselves up for poor past choices when they need to focus on making better choices right now and in the future. To do that requires a new perspective and that can’t come from ourselves. I remember being lost in a maze as a kid and my family guiding me out. They were able to do so because they stood in a tower in the middle of the maze with a different perspective. There is a way out of the maze but when you’re in the middle of it, it is very difficult to see. When you’ve tried every known avenue it’s time to get some help and a new perspective.
This is the vulnerable moment. Will we push past the shame, the guilt, the deep feelings of inadequacy and entrust our heart to another including God? Trust is almost always the issue that prevents people from reaching out and reaching up. Mistrust is something the enemy established in us from Eden; mistrust of God and of each other. If there’s no trust then there’s nowhere for our hearts to go. So we have to be vulnerable and then courageous and entrust our hearts and our lives to others if we’re ever going to make it out of the maze.
Everyone is more weak and fragile than you realise. This life takes its toll. The enemy’s attacks and accusations are relentless and all designed to steal, kill and destroy. We’re also more interconnected than we realise. Paul’s metaphor of the body is apt:
If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honoured, all the parts are glad (1 Corinthians 12:26).
We’re fragile and we’re connected. In other words, we need each other. We need each other’s love, kindness, wisdom, grace and faith. God has designed it so that when we look to him he often points us to others. It may be a counsellor, spiritual director, pastor, mentor or family member or friend. It can also be an unexpected source. We can learn from anyone because everyone is made in God’s image.
We are not alone in the maze. Many have journeyed through it and now provide perspective and help. Others are right there with you, encouraging you even as you encourage them. Others will pause and sit with you while you take time to grieve, lament or pray. You are not alone. Even if no person is stepping up for you, God is there. He is our counsellor and comforter, our guide and our strength. He can heal us of our past choices and show us the way through now and in the future. He invites us to trust him and trust the body that he has put together. He invites us to walk with him through vulnerability and into courage. He invites us out of our isolation and into community. What choice do you make right now? I pray that you choose God and choose life.