In his book Wild at Heart author John Eldredge gives us a glimpse at Adam, the first man. Adam is hiding.
‘I was afraid because I was naked, so I hid.’ (Gen. 3:10)
Eldredge says, “You don’t need a course in psychology to understand men…We are hiding, every last one of us. Well aware that we, too, are not what we are meant to be, desperately afraid of exposure, terrified of being seen for what we are and are not, we have run off into the bushes…Most of what you encounter when you meet a man is a facade, an elaborate fig leaf, a brilliant disguise.” (p. 52)
So what about men? What are you hiding from?
Ask yourself this: “What words would I use to describe myself as a man? Are words like strong, passionate or dangerous words you would use? Would the description be more like, passive, quiet, hides behind his newspaper or iPad?
We men all have our heroes don’t we? The ones who we long to be like, the star rugby player, the successful businessman. We want to be the hero in the movie, we want to be Maximus in Gladiator, Luke Skywalker, Indiana Jones, or Aragon from The Lord of the Rings.
There is a poser in each of us as men, that brilliant disguise, that “fig leaf,” is always in the way of the authentic masculinity that God hardwired into each of us.
The job of the poser is to take away something essential to the nature of being a man. It’s a mask, it’s a defence mechanism, it gets in the way of men discovering their true heart and the desires of their heart.
He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. ~ Ecclesiastes 3:11
So what’s your pose?
May you this week reflect and discover the masks that you wear. May you become aware of why you wear these. Ask God to expose your true self, and begin or continue to work with you to find your desires, the ones he has placed in your heart.
How have I been hiding?
Where is it that I go?
Do you see me falling
Show me – I need to know
What is my role – my mission?
Give me eyes to see
Because those that I love to serve
Are right in front of me
Expose the lies I tell myself
That only serve to bind
Help me lower the masks
The ones I hide behind
And as we name these thick places
That have me trapped inside
Help me not to find more places
Where I’ll only run and hide
Jesus, only you can do this
I can’t do this on my own Free,
and save me from myself
Help me unlearn what I have known