Happy Advent everyone. Rob here.

The season of Advent is a season of waiting. We’re all waiting for something it seems: a vaccine, racial justice, political change, a job, love, a miracle, you name it. What are you waiting for? What the first Christmas tells us is that God often responds to the question of our waiting with the most unexpected responses.

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1st century Israel was a small province of the mighty Roman Empire. Herod the Great acted as if he was the true King of Israel but, in fact, was a Roman vassal with only a veneer of legitimacy. Jerusalem was a hotbed of political intrigue as various factions and personalities vied for influence with the increasingly unpredictable and paranoid king. It could be expected that the Messiah in this setting would be a militarily powerful, charismatic and glorious figure with obvious mark of divine blessing around him. God decided on a young virgin, an obscure province, a very humble birth and a baby. God’s answer to a nation entranced by power and influence was to come humbly into his world and offer an invitation to a kingdom that operates outside the usual power structures.

Like many I have been slightly obsessed with the American Presidential Election and the subsequent shenanigans by a power hungry ruler who hates to lose. The media and our own need for drama ensures that we’re drawn into the intrigue and in-fighting. Meanwhile God is inviting us to turn our eyes and heart away from the noise and look for his mustard seeds of new life that are hidden from the cameras and media gaze.

The answers to our waiting aren’t found by looking at the headlines. They’re found by being attentive to God even as we go about our lives. Mary wasn’t doing anything extraordinary when the angel came to her. The shepherds were doing their job when the angels came to them. Zechariah was going about his priestly business when his angel appeared. The key wasn’t what they were doing. It was in their ‘yes’ when they were told what to do. If we live our lives with an attitude of saying yes to God then the waiting isn’t filled with angst: it’s filled with expectancy and hopeful anticipation. When we keep giving God our ‘yes’ we stop worrying about God answering our prayers. We know they’re being answered even as we live and breathe and have our being.

I’m reminding myself of this as I wait to hear back from a job interview, as I wait for more inspiration to strike for my latest book, as I wait for a new year to begin and new plans to emerge. We’re all waiting for something but we are not to stop living while we wait. We are to give our lives to God , living in hopeful expectancy that he’ll show up in unexpected ways and to say yes when he does.

Waiting creates longing and longing can paralyse us if we’re not careful. Let’s be vigilant this Advent. Let’s “wake up and slow down” as an old vicar once said a few advents ago. Another way to put it is, “let’s come alive to God and pay attention to him.” And let’s do it with ‘YES’ already on our lips.

Grace and peace.

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The Practice of Love

Hi everyone. Rob here.

In the book of James we see the old sage dispensing wisdom to his audience. It is wisdom born out of experience. As the leader of the Jerusalem church he had seen it all: Persecution, famine, hardship, the perils of legalism, the perils of liberalism and more. As one of the younger brothers of Jesus himself he knew that the life of faith isn’t easy, but it is necessary. In James 1:12 we see him write this;

Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.

We know about God’s unconditional love for us. It is true, steadfast and beautiful. It is, also, often hard to hang on to as life’s circumstances throw us about. What James is talking about here isn’t that. This is about our unconditional love of God. This is about us choosing to confess our love for God and practice our love for God even as life’s circumstances throw us about. Choosing to love God is an act of faith, but it is also a rescue for our hearts.

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If we simply focus on our circumstances we find ourselves stuck in a few different ways. First we try and make a way through the circumstance. We apply our best thinking, we make arrangements and, if that doesn’t go well, we scheme and plot and manipulate. We may even resort to making deals with God. But even as we do that we’re focusing on the circumstance and not God. Or we may enter into a fatalistic melancholy where we come to an agreement that this is the way it is and always will be. We give up but become defined by the circumstance whatever it may be. Another way is to hide behind holiness. We start to pray more, read Scripture more, listen to worship music and the like, but sub-consciously we’re trying to earn our way into God’s good books. It’s a childlike behaviour. We look good but we’re still trying to get our way. There’s another path. Loving God.

When we choose to love God we’re not ignoring our circumstances. We’re putting them in their place. We’re relativizing their importance. We’re saying that our hearts first and foremost belong to God. He gets our attention and devotion before anything else. We give God our heart and, in doing so, we entrust all the circumstances of our life to him. We attach ourselves to the heart of God and we detach ourselves from the problems of our life. We haven’t ignored or bypassed them. We’ve simply chosen not to make them an idol that demans our attention.

Is this process easy? Of course not! The circumstances of our life include grief of all kinds, unemployment, relationship fractures, physical pain, untold disappointments and more. Words cannot express how heartbreaking, pain-inducing and exasperating life can be. We are also taught that God is our life and all things are under his hand. It is very difficult to believe that God is good when, deep down, you believe there’s a lot more that he could be doing! But having faith only when we believe that God is doing what we want him to do is no faith at all. Faith takes us out of what we think is best and takes us to a place where we believe that God is always good, always doing what is right, always acting in love even if I can’t see it or understand it. The act of loving God helps us to bridge the gap between the circumstances of our life and the act of embracing faith.

So do it. You can start right now by saying “God I love you. I love you Father. I love you Jesus. I love you Holy Spirit. I welcome you into my heart and I give you my heart. I love you.” Dwelling in a prayer like that, even for a minute, can be enormously freeing to your heart. You start breathing normally, seeing clearly, standing up straighter and feeling more peaceful, hopeful and maybe even joyful. Choose to love God and you’ll discover that it’s what your soul was made for.

Grace and peace.

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The Reality of Transition

Hi everyone. Rob here.

We are all hearing about the word ‘transition’ these days as America deals with the problem of managing a transition of presidential power when the defeated foe refuses to acknowledge the reality of their loss. It reminds us that it’s really hard to transition if you don’t accept the reality that you need to transition. Life is essentially a whole lot of transitions strung together. We need to learn how to transition well if we are to live well. This is especially true when every day brings with it more change. This is life in 2020. How are you doing with that?

Accepting the reality of change seems to be very hard for a lot of us. Witness the protests about the election result in the United States. We struggle to accept the aging process or a change in material well-being. I recently watched a programme about former All Blacks – our national rugby team – and the struggle they have had since retiring from the game. They struggled physically because of their injuries and the need for ongoing discipline nutritionally. They struggled mentally because of the loss of significance, camaraderie and routine. They also struggled emotionally because they had issues from the past that hadn’t been dealt with as they enjoyed the glory days of their rugby career. They made enormous progress through the show because they were willing to accept the reality of their condition. They were overweight, they were struggling emotionally and they wanted a way out and through. Mutual vulnerability gave them mutual strength and support. It all starts with facing reality.

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The problem comes when we don’t like the reality that we’re facing. Will we then try and avoid it or enter into it? Will we go to the doctor or dentist when something isn’t right? Will we seek counselling if we’re not coping well or living well? Will we go to God when we know that we’ve been rejecting him for a long time? Will we reach out to our spouse to bridge the distance that has started to grow between you? Whether we like reality or not, we have to move towards it if we’re ever going to get through it. There’s no way round it. It gets you eventually.

I’ve been trying to practice this in my own life. I recently finished 4 weeks of work that I enjoyed. It ended and I had to name the reality of missing it. In that reality was an invitation that God has the right kind of work for me to do and to take steps of praying, applying and accepting what comes my way. There was also an invitation to keep writing and doing what I’m doing. I received all those invitations for the future because I accepted the reality that a recent chapter was now the past. It’s a small example but it represents the bigger transitions we have to make.

Have you accepted the reality of the pandemic? Of the election results? Of the state of your own mental and emotional health? Of the state of your marriage or relationship with your kids? We need to. We’re invited to so that God can help us die to the old and rise to the new. There may be grief and lament in that process of gaining acceptance. That’s a good thing because we have to name the loss. Change is first experienced as loss I heard. Lean into it. Ask for the Spirit’s help. Follow Jesus. He knows how to do it. Reality is something that God is great at transforming. If we avoid it we also avoid what God is doing in the world. Let’s be part of that by learning to transition by walking with him.

Grace and peace.

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Loving and Ruling

Hi everyone. Rob here.

This weekend my guys group had planned a road trip to Hawkes Bay. This morning we found out that wild weather and downed power lines meant that our accommodation had to be cancelled. We have made other arrangements and the road trip lives on but it’s a salient lesson for all of us. We are not in control. We are not in charge. But there’s a fine line to walk because humanity was given a mandate to rule. We are given kingdoms to reign over. How does this work?

We start with the simple fact that God is God and we are not. He is the absolute sovereign. The earth is the Lords and everything in it as the Psalm says. To him we bow the knee, plain and simple. However, God didn’t create humanity so he could have a master-servant relationship for all eternity. His desire was for us to share in his rule and enjoy his love and his kingdom. He created us out of love and joy so we could enjoy an eternity of love and joy. We were to rule because we participated in a loving relationship with our Creator.

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What happens though, when you turn your back on the Creator and reject the relationship? It means we have also rejected the basis for our rule. Our attempts to rule will now cause harm so God has to thwart our plans to rule. He does so in order that the relationship might be restored. This is why Jesus came. As the Son of Man he came to lead the children of God home to the Father and his kingdom. As we become increasingly trusted apprentices of our older brother Jesus, as we learn to live like beloved sons and daughters of God, the more we will be trusted with kingdom responsibilities.

In practice then, for us, ruling happens when we surrender. We bow the knee, open our hearts, come to the cross and receive love. As we receive that love we find ourselves worshipping and returning the love that is given to us. And so the mutual love that is meant to exist between us and God is put into place. We become agents of love and when we do that then we are ruling in the name of God.

Paul sums up this process in his wonderful prayer found in Ephesians 3:14-19.

For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

Amen. May it be so.

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Kingdom Rivers

Hi everyone. Rob here.

One of the things drilled into us at Bible College was the idea that God’s kingdom was now and not yet. The coming of Jesus Christ, his death, resurrection and ascension meant that the kingdom of God had come among us and through the Spirit’s work is among us still. The kingdom is also yet to come in all its fullness. When Christ returns he will make all things new and the reign of God will be complete. Now and not yet. As I write this the American Election is too close to call. Our attention is drawn to this very consequential event but Scripture tells us that if we want to see the kingdom at work now we have to look away from the headlines. In Matthew 13:31-33 Jesus tells us two short parables to make this point:

He told them another parable: “The kingdom of heaven is like a mustard seed, which a man took and planted in his field. Though it is the smallest of all seeds, yet when it grows, it is the largest of garden plants and becomes a tree, so that the birds come and perch in its branches.”

He told them still another parable: “The kingdom of heaven is like yeast that a woman took and mixed into about sixty pounds of flour until it worked all through the dough.”

When we talk about the kingdom of God we often tend towards words like glorious and grand and majestic. Jesus points us towards small and unseen and subversive. We also tend towards seeing great achievements as evidence for God’s kingdom. Scripture points us towards the development of our character, particularly the ability to love, as the goal for our lives.

This means that if I’m looking for evidence of the kingdom in my own life I can’t point to my achievements. Instead I ask if I’m loving more and loving better? Am I more surrendered to God? Am I helping others to love more and better and give up their agendas? Is the fruit of the Spirit evident in my life or am I being ruled by unhealthy desires or selfish ambition? I found myself doing this as I hiked into the forest two days ago. I allowed God’s Spirit to examine my life deeply. I was taken into old wounds and regrets and I invited God to come into those places and interpret them for me. If I had to repent I would repent, if I had to grieve I would grieve and if I had to forgive I would forgive. In the end the Spirit showed me how all my experiences had been used to deepen my character and my love for God. I was invited to give thanks for my whole life, not just my favourite moments.

I was walking by a typical New Zealand river, flowing down from steep hills, filled with rocks, logs, twists and turns, waterfalls and beauty. The beauty was because of the obstacles in the river not despite them. A smooth flowing river is lovely but most rivers aren’t like that and nor are most lives. If you want to see the kingdom at work in your life look for where the obstacles have been and note how the river of life has flowed around or through them and created something beautiful. Our lives reflect God’s kingdom when difficulties have led us to surrender our own agendas and give everything over to God. The kingdom reigns when we hand over the crown.

The kingdom is often at work in us in quiet moments, in stillness and silence, in the times when we have quieted the voices within and without. The Spirit’s voice will begin to emerge and be heard. It will always be a voice of love not condemnation, invitation not manipulation, grace not law. It will start as yeast or as a mustard seed and will work its way through our hearts and minds until it floods our being. I love those moments when I have died and God is fully alive in me. May all of us know those moments more and more. And may God’s kingdom fill our being and overflow to others.

Grace and peace everyone.

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The Great Inclusion

Hi everyone. Rob here.

I took a few weeks off writing to work on the election we had in our country recently. I greeted people, helped them through the voting process and helped in the counting part of it as well. It has been a real privilege to get up close to our democracy in action. The greatest privilege was experiencing the great diversity of our country up close. I especially enjoyed the excitement of people who were getting to vote for the first time. Some were young people who were now old enough but others were refugees or immigrants who had never been allowed to vote before. It reminded me again that there is strength in diversity and power in inclusion.

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Being inclusive seems to be something that causes antagonism in the Christian world at times. I think that people equate it with tolerance for sin or universalism. But inclusion is part of God’s heart as we see in Revelation 7:9-10.

After this I saw a vast crowd, too great to count, from every nation and tribe and people and language, standing in front of the throne and before the Lamb. They were clothed in white robes and held palm branches in their hands.  And they were shouting with a great roar,

“Salvation comes from our God who sits on the throne
    and from the Lamb!”

God wants everyone to come home to him. This is what we read in 2 Peter 3:9

The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.

He knows not everyone will. He knows that there will always be hard-hearted people who will continue to resist the invitation into the kingdom, but his desire is to be inclusive. He wants as many people as possible from every corner of the globe to come home to him. The question is, do we?

Let’s not pretend that embracing diversity is easy. Life is far more simple when people are similar to us. There is less confusion when we speak the same language. There is less argument when people share our opinions. There is less need for explanation when people can read the cultural cues that every culture has. It is, however, far less healthy when life is easy. God is after our character and scripture tells us that character doesn’t come from an easy life:

…we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.  And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us (Romans 5:3-5).

A multicultural society filled with diverse backgrounds, experiences, ages, cultural mores and philosophies invites us to listen, to be patient, to be slow to speak and to be filled with grace. Another option is to withdraw, resist and resent the differences and maintain a belief in the superiority of your own culture, but that doesn’t sound like Jesus to me. God celebrates and critiques all cultures. Every culture is invited to put down their idols, repent and come to God through Christ. Christ cannot be forced into any one cultural motif. He is a Saviour for all, therefore, all are able to connect with him and relate to him. He is Lord and Saviour, Friend and Brother to the great multitude. All are welcome but all have to go through Jesus.

Jesus, may we share in your love for all people. May we let go of cultural pride and embrace humility so that we may listen, learn and love in your name. Amen.

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Obedience and Freedom

Hi everyone. Rob here.

The readings in The Revised Common Lectionary on Sunday included an abridged version of the 10 Commandments. I had the privilege of leading the liturgy on Sunday and I made the comment that modern society sees the Commandments as rules that restrict. Ancient Israel, on the other hand, would have seen them as a statement of liberation. They were no longer slaves to Pharaoh. They were now God’s people. This is how God described the relationship to Moses in Exodus 19:4-6:

You yourselves have seen what I did to Egypt, and how I carried you on eagles’ wings and brought you to myself. Now if you obey me fully and keep my covenant, then out of all nations you will be my treasured possession. Although the whole earth is mine, you will be for me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.’

That’s quite a promotion! In our western culture we have made the mistake of thinking of liberation as being free to do what we want, when we want and how we want to do it. We believe we are free when we are only responsible to and for ourselves. But that is not biblical freedom. It is, in fact, a new kind of slavery. It’s a slavery to self and, therefore, to sin. Biblical freedom is when we are obedient to God who made us and loves us. Obedience is when we say Yes to God. When we say yes to God we enter into his freedom and that is what makes us free in return. Jesus’ victory was to defeat all the powers that get in the way of us saying Yes.

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We see this freedom at work in the life, death and resurrection of Jesus. As he walked up and down the land of Israel you could see that he was free. No so-called authority figure could rein him in. Pharisees would confront him and leave with their metaphorical tail between their legs. Neither Rome nor Herod could intimidate him. Demons couldn’t stand up to him and the Devil couldn’t tempt him. Peter tried to tell him how good Messiahs should act and was thoroughly rebuked. The soldiers fell back before his authority and Pilate was troubled by it. Jesus chose to be arrested and chose to die. We then discovered that death couldn’t contain him either. Heaven can’t contain him. His life flows to us even now. Don’t you want to enter into that freedom?! Then bow the knee, surrender, submit and ask the Holy Spirit to lead you into an obedient life. Freedom will follow.

Do I experience this all the time? Am I totally obedient to the Spirit of Jesus? No, but perfection isn’t really the goal. Union with God is the goal. Intimate connection with God is the goal. He is our life and he must become our life. A good thing to measure our progress by is our desire. Are we wanting more of God in us, through us and around us? Is it his freedom, his love and his life we desire to be in us? If yes, then we are making progress. If not, ask for that desire. Where we place the eternity set in our hearts will dictate how we live and who we love for.

So, let us all bow the knee and give the King our yes today. Grace and peace everyone.

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Shaken but Strong

Hello everyone. Rob here.

It’s my daughter’s birthday today and my son’s next week. They are growing up and their parents are growing older. It’s a reminder, once again, that life is constant change and transition. 2020 has been one long lesson in that regard hasn’t it!? This has been a year where it feels like the world is being shaken up. We can no longer take anything for granted.

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Allow me a metaphor. Yesterday I experienced a small earthquake. While that was nothing it reminded me that the safest buildings are those that flex with the quake. Being stiff and rigid is a sure sign that in a big quake, it will snap. In times of change and transition there is a strength in being able to move with the times, go with the flow and sway with the breeze. The key is to have a secure foundation. Paul prays this for us in Ephesians 3:15-19,

For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name.  I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

It’s an absolutely stunning and beautiful prayer. Rooted and established in love is a phrase that is both inviting and challenging. One of the things that gets tested in me in times of great change is my ability and capacity to love. It makes me wonder just how deeply rooted in love I am? Paul sees this as the key to living a life of power and faith. The true power is being able to grasp the endless dimensions of Christ’s love for us. When we do that we are “filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” There’s a lot of God in us when there’s a lot of love in us because God is love.

Change challenges our ability to grasp God’s love because it turns our eyes, hearts and minds away from God and onto the circumstances of our life. It’s like when Peter went to walk out to Jesus on the water (see Matthew 14:25-32). He was fine when he had his eyes on Jesus but when he noticed the storm raging around him he began to sink. It’s hard to keep your eyes on Jesus in the storm and 2020 has been a storm. The storm, however, did not change the reality that Jesus was right there. When Peter began to sink he cried out and he was saved. Jesus is right there and he hears our cries. His love for us is present to us. We just have to remember that and take it to heart!

So take Paul’s prayer and pray it for yourself, your family, your friends, your church and your neighbours. God wants us to be filled with his love, filled to overflowing. he wants us to know the power of that love working in and through us. That is the Spirit-filled life. It is the life of Christ in us.

This week, may you know that you can be shaken but strong. You can hold firm and go with the flow. The world may make you tremble but God will give your courage. And may the love and peace of God be with you.

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He Is Always Good

Kia ora everyone. Rob here.

As I thought about today’s blog, the question came to me:

What would be really good to know right now?

The answer, I believe is that God is and always will be good. A helpful daily practice for God’s people right now would be to affirm the reality of God’s goodness. I suggest this because believing that God is good is actually quite difficult when you’re surrounded by things going from bad to worse. It’s also helpful in times of uncertainty. God’s permanent goodness is a rock where we can place our feet. It leads to hope and hope is a fuel that energises us when giving up seems like a viable option.

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The failure to believe in God’s goodness, like most human failings, is rooted in the story of the garden. The serpent comes to Eve and says this:

“Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’ For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

What he’s really saying is,

God is holding out on you. He’s not good or trustworthy. You can’t be free when he’s in charge.”

The problem is that going our own way and trusting in our own best thinking has never really worked for us, has it? I really like Isaiah 26:3

You will keep in perfect peace
    those whose minds are steadfast,
    because they trust in you.

The path to peace is to trust God, especially when times are hard. When you feel like the whole world is against you, God says, “Trust in my goodness.” The question is, how do we do it?

There’s the short daily practice of agreeing with God’s goodness:

God: Father, Son, Holy Spirit I agree with your goodness today. I affirm your goodness in all circumstances and in everything that happens to me and around me today. Amen.

It’s also good to make a habit of stopping and thanking God for anything good that happens in your day. You can thank God for the sun shining, for a bargain at the supermarket, for a kind word from someone, for having enough today, for having breath.

Something that helps me is to remind myself that it’s all going somewhere. Things may feel hopeless but in reality it’s all going somewhere. That phrase helps me to know that God is in control, he has a plan and it’s good.

Another really good thing to do is to break any agreements with the idea that God isn’t good. Any variation of, “God is holding out on me,” needs to be renounced and broken. Otherwise you start viewing your whole life through that lens and you fail to see the goodness of God in your midst.

There will be other practices and you know what helps you. Time in creation, worship music, cuddling your kids or your pet, getting some exercise and more. Do whatever it takes to remind yourself of the goodness of God. Reading your favourite scriptures really helps too. Just do it and keep doing it. The world needs you to be in touch with God’s goodness because they need to see it, hear it and feel it.

Grace and peace everyone.

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Naming the Grief

Hello everyone. Rob here.

There is a sense right now that the world is grieving. We are seeing the stages of grief being played out in the public sphere – denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance – as we come to grips with a world being shaped everyday by a global pandemic and all its associated consequences.

Here in New Zealand we have gotten off very lightly and yet the impact of the pandemic is still real. The grief is real. I was reminded in a podcast today that the initial human reaction to change is to experience it as loss. There is a grief to every change. How much more so when there is real loss to contend with? The losses may be small like missing out on sports games or your annual overseas holiday. Or they may be much more soul-affecting like not being able to farewell a lost one properly or losing your job or business. Whether they are big or small, the losses all add up. We tend to minimise these losses knowing that people are in much worse situations or we dramatise the losses as if we’re the only ones to have suffered such a fate. I suggest a much better action is to name the losses, big and small, take them to Jesus and invite the Holy Spirit to bring comfort and counsel to us. We also need to collectivise the losses; that is to acknowledge that we are feeling loss as a community as our normal communal acts are, out of necessity, removed.

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Paul writes in Romans 12:14-16,

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.

This is a call to empathy for the people of God. It’s a reminder that we wear masks to protect the vulnerable and we keep our distance for the same reason. It also reminds us that people who are participating in lockdown protests and voice their displeasure online are grieving too. It’s coming out as anger and denial but it’s still grief. It’s also a warning against cursing others, pride and conceit. If that’s your attitude you are standing against God’s purposes for community. We see that when leaders adopt those attitudes they create and enable a divided society and no longer work for the common good. Paul puts out a different call for God’s people. He calls us to humility, empathy, harmony and love. These are the attitudes that enable people to flourish and communities to thrive.

So, what will you do with your grief? Can you put a name to it? What is it that you are grieving? Human touch? Church meetings? Inability to travel? Financial security? Feeling in control? The more specific you can be the better. Ask the Spirit to help you name your grief. Then take it to God. Father, Son and Spirit welcome you into their intimate life of loving unity. It’s a safe place, the best place for a grieving soul. You will find much healing there, maybe some correction, maybe some interpretation, but always love.

What stage of grief are you in? There is no right or wrong answer here. It’s only a question of what you’re doing with it. Lockdown protests, online trolling and unfounded rumour spreading is no place for your grief and it only adds to the grief of others. Being stoic and silent with your grief is no good either. Find someone you can be safe with and let it out. Not just for your sake but for us all. We’re in it together and if we all grieve well, with empathy and love, then we can get through it and even thrive a little.

Grace and peace everyone.

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